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I Have No One that I Know in My Class

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Ok, I am currently in year 9. I have an amazing group of friends and I really enjoyed year 8. It was just perfect! But now I got moved classes and I got separated from my friends. Some of the people in my new class are from my year eight class. I know those people but none of them are my friends. I use to have friends to sit next to but now I don’t cause of the new class. Plus moving is no option from the school!

My class is nice to me, but I feel lonely. I do sit next to SOMEONE sometimes but sometimes they don’t even talk much, not like my friends do. Now I only see my friends at recess and ouch which sucks, I want to be with them in class.

I cry every night secretly and no one in my family would understand how I am feeling. When the teacher says get in partners, I don’t even know who to partner with. I feel so so so so sad! Help me please or I don’t know where my sadness will take me! Thanks…

I Have No One that I Know in My Class

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Thank you for your letter. This is the time for you to be proactive. What I mean is move toward the people you’d like to become your new friends. Asked to sit by them for lunch — talk with them and spend time together. Don’t passively wait for them to connect with you — put yourself in a place where they can get to know you better. Go to them rather than waiting for them to come to you. Give the effort and the new situation sometime.

Wishing you patience and peace,
Dr. Dan
Proof Positive Blog @ PsychCentral

I Have No One that I Know in My Class

Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP

Dan Tomasulo Ph.D., TEP, MFA, MAPP teaches Positive Psychology in the graduate program of Counseling and Clinical Psychology at Columbia University, Teachers College and works with Martin Seligman, the Father of Positive Psychology in the Masters of Applied Positive Psychology (MAPP) program at the University of Pennsylvania. He is Director of the New York Certification in Positive Psychology for the Open Center in New York City and on faculty at New Jersey City University. Sharecare has honored him as one of the top 10 online influencers on the topic of depression. For more information go to: He also writes for Psych Central's Ask the Therapist column and the Proof Positive blog.

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Tomasulo, D. (2018). I Have No One that I Know in My Class. Psych Central. Retrieved on May 24, 2019, from
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