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How Do I Fix My Life?

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I’m 17 and I can’t talk to girls, I don’t like talking to people except a select few that are my friends and I guess it’s because of me being fat and disliked by pretty much everyone in my middle school (never bullied, was too strong for that sh*t), my dad is a full time alcoholic that barely works ever, constantly fights with my mom and never stops talking about how my mom ruined his life by trying to run away from his abusive ways to a different country (loves his kids though), my brother, who constantly did drugs and drank with my dad died and only made my dad worse, barely affected me and hit my mom hard (my dad blames my mom for his death as well) and my mom that I feel bad for because she has to work 20 hours a day to support my other brother, me and my dad (out of pity). How do I fix my life? (From Israel)

How Do I Fix My Life?

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It seems clear your family isn’t enough of an emotional support system for you.When we are looking to change our lives in profound ways, we need people there to support us. I would recommend getting this type of emotional sustenance from an outside source. The work right now is to find people you can talk to. The easiest way is to find places that have activities you like, and connect with other like minded people. I would also broaden the search for support to other family members, grandparents, aunts, uncles, etc., who might be able to hear you out. You may even want to talk with those in your religious community for some guidance.

The work now is for you to build a support network. This is the first step in making change.

Wishing you patience and peace,
Dr. Dan
Proof Positive Blog @ PsychCentral

How Do I Fix My Life?

Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP

Dan Tomasulo Ph.D., TEP, MFA, MAPP teaches Positive Psychology in the graduate program of Counseling and Clinical Psychology at Columbia University, Teachers College and works with Martin Seligman, the Father of Positive Psychology in the Masters of Applied Positive Psychology (MAPP) program at the University of Pennsylvania. He is Director of the New York Certification in Positive Psychology for the Open Center in New York City and on faculty at New Jersey City University. Sharecare has honored him as one of the top 10 online influencers on the topic of depression. For more information go to: He also writes for Psych Central's Ask the Therapist column and the Proof Positive blog.

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Tomasulo, D. (2018). How Do I Fix My Life?. Psych Central. Retrieved on March 24, 2019, from
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