Here’s the thing. A very good friend of mine (20) has started acting very unusual, she’s skipping classes at college, doesn’t smile anymore and doesn’t have the will to talk to anyone about her problem. Anytime we (my friends and I) ask her about what’s going on, she doesn’t want to share it with us. Once we mentioned a psychologist and her response was something like this: “I don’t think I could ever share my problem with anyone, not even a psychologist…” I’m very scared and don’t know how to help her and most of all, I don’t want to see her wasting her life in sorrow and grief. Please help!
Keep trying. Let her know you care about her and that is what friends do. Also offer to her that she might not be able to tell you (or a psychologist) everything, but she might be able to talk about how she has been feeling with you. You might also suggest that while it may be too much to talk about everything she might be able to talk about part of it. This sometimes relieves the pressure and starts the process.
Dan Tomasulo Ph.D., TEP, MFA, MAPP teaches Positive Psychology in the graduate program of Counseling and Clinical Psychology at Columbia University, Teachers College and works with Martin Seligman, the Father of Positive Psychology in the Masters of Applied Positive Psychology (MAPP) program at the University of Pennsylvania. He is Director of the New York Certification in Positive Psychology for the Open Center in New York City and on faculty at New Jersey City University. Sharecare has honored him as one of the top 10 online influencers on the topic of depression. For more information go to: http://www.dare2behappy.com/. He also writes for Psych Central's Ask the Therapist column and the Proof Positive blog.
APA Reference Tomasulo, D. (2018). Depressed Friend. Psych Central.
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