Several weeks ago my wife of two years asked me for a divorce. I was shocked — I’d thought things had been going well. Not two weeks before she had gushed to me about how excited she was to have a future with children and a home with me. When I asked her why, she could not give me more information than “I just feel like it’s the right thing to do” no matter how I asked, and refused to go to marriage counseling with me and her therapist. She credits her therapist with convincing her to leave me, although as stated will not explain why.
She now refuses to see me, even though she insists I haven’t done anything wrong. It’s been tough, but I’ve learned to deal with it. She’s moved out now.
However, just tonight her mother (we’re still close, and she and my wife have a very close and loving relationship) told me that my wife had also come to her and asked her not to visit her in her new apartment, because in direct defiance of their previously very close and loving relationship she says that she thinks her mother is bad for her. Again, she will not explain beyond that or give examples as to why she feels that way.
Now I’m worried. She says she’s had these feelings ever since a few months ago when she began seeing the above-mentioned therapist for her drug problems.
I’ve read about amoral therapists sometimes trying to drive patients from their personal relationships to make them more dependent on the therapy. The fact that as a drug addict she is being encouraged to dismantle her support network that has saved her in the past from her addictions, the fact she cannot seem to give more coherent reasoning behind why she is doing what she is doing, the fact that she will not divulge what has been going on in her therapy, the fact that she grows very defensive when questioned about her therapist, and the fact that she has moved to the next city over from where her therapist lives (after stating in the past that she never wanted to move there because it was far from work) have all led me to the possibility that she is experiencing emotional abuse and manipulation from her therapist.
Am I wrong to suspect that this might be the case, and if I am not, what actions can I take to have this matter investigated?