My 13-year-old treats her 11 year-old brother poorly much of the time. She won’t let him in her room, responds in a mean way when he tries to talk to her or asks her a question, and is just generally nasty to him much of the time. She is otherwise a perfectly nice and friendly teenager, has friends, etc. Her brother looks up to her and would do anything for her. How can I counsel her to be nicer to her brother? It’s not fair to him.Daughter Mean to Her Brother
Daughter Mean to Her Brother
You will have to pick your battles. Her not allowing her brother to come into her room may be very different that her being mean to him at other times. She is entitled to her privacy. She is not entitled to be mean.
You can help by empowering your son by role-playing with him different options when she treats him poorly. You are not going to be there to monitor every interaction and the best way is to help him manage his relationship with his sister. On the other hand let him know that he needs to respect his sister’s privacy. When she says she doesn’t want him to come into her room — that’s the end of the discussion.