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I think I have depression. I’ve done all the online tests and although they say not to use them as a diagnostic tool, all of them say I have moderate to severe depression. I see absolutely no point in life, I honestly couldn’t care less if I died tomorrow. My life is worth nothing and I find it unfair that I have to live in it. I feel empty and hollowed out inside but I act normally in front of other people so they won’t suspect anything. I have difficulty remembering everything. I’m always misplacing things or forgetting to do things I do daily. I have absolutely no attention span, I can’t focus on anything and I can’t make any decisions. I’ve become seriously indecisive and can spend an hour just picking shampoo.

I want to tell my parents so I can get help, but I can’t. I’ve never talked about my feelings in front of them, not even when I was a little kid. I have no idea how they’d respond and I don’t want to find out. I’m wondering if there’s some way I can get diagnosed without them knowing. And if that’s not possible, how I should tell them?

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Thank you for writing us. Each of the symptoms you’ve identified does, indeed, go along with being depressed. I admire your courage for taking the quizzes and sending in the letter.

Since you are 16, I would highly recommend that you talk to your school’s guidance counselor. The counselors for schools are very well-trained in identifying and helping to find ways to treat the symptoms you have.

You’re not alone and there are a wide range of treatment options. Here is a link to a recent article I’ve written about some new treatments for depression. Talking to your counselor is the fastest way to get feedback. He or she will help you get what you need.

Wishing you patience and peace,
Dr. Dan
Proof Positive Blog @ PsychCentral

Scared to Get Help

Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP

Dan Tomasulo Ph.D., TEP, MFA, MAPP teaches Positive Psychology in the graduate program of Counseling and Clinical Psychology at Columbia University, Teachers College and works with Martin Seligman, the Father of Positive Psychology in the Masters of Applied Positive Psychology (MAPP) program at the University of Pennsylvania. He is Director of the New York Certification in Positive Psychology for the Open Center in New York City and on faculty at New Jersey City University. Sharecare has honored him as one of the top 10 online influencers on the topic of depression. For more information go to: He also writes for Psych Central's Ask the Therapist column and the Proof Positive blog.

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Tomasulo, D. (2018). Scared to Get Help. Psych Central. Retrieved on May 20, 2019, from
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