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Dating A Married Man

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I am dating a married man and I want to end it but don’t know how
I have been seeing a married man for a month. I am falling for everything he says and does and know that in the end I will be the one to get hurt. I want to end it before I get more attached and I don’t know what to say or how to say it so that it is quick and to the point. I guess in a way I am hoping he would fight for me, but I know he will never leave his wife and kids so reality is I have to tell him goodbye and stick with it no matter what he says or does. Please help me.

Dating A Married Man

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I’m so glad you realize that you need to get out of this relationship. I don’t think that there’s any magic to it. But there are three things I would suggest that may help cushion the ending. First, plan significant time away. A week’s vacation, a retreat, something where you are distracted. Secondly, let him know you wish things were different, but since they are not you can’t let yourself fall down this rabbit hole. Then explain that you will no longer return his text or email. Follow this up by blocking them on your phone. Finally, surround yourself with good friends who can help you through this transition. They will help remind you that you are doing the right thing.

Wishing you patience and peace,
Dr. Dan
Proof Positive Blog @ PsychCentral

Dating A Married Man

Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP

Dan Tomasulo Ph.D., TEP, MFA, MAPP teaches Positive Psychology in the graduate program of Counseling and Clinical Psychology at Columbia University, Teachers College and works with Martin Seligman, the Father of Positive Psychology in the Masters of Applied Positive Psychology (MAPP) program at the University of Pennsylvania. He is Director of the New York Certification in Positive Psychology for the Open Center in New York City and on faculty at New Jersey City University. Sharecare has honored him as one of the top 10 online influencers on the topic of depression. For more information go to: He also writes for Psych Central's Ask the Therapist column and the Proof Positive blog.

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Tomasulo, D. (2018). Dating A Married Man. Psych Central. Retrieved on May 23, 2019, from
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