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Why Am I Never Content?

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I started dating my husband when I was 15, I am 27 now. We have been married and living together for 2 years now, and I should be happy… Right? I mean, I have all the things a woman my age should want… but I am still not happy. A lot of issues from my childhood have resurfaced over this past year (I was molested by my father, and it is finally out in the open), and I am under a lot of stress. I quit my job, met a man online (had an emotional affair), and I feel like I don’t fit into my own life anymore. I feel like I am going insane, like something has got to give. I think I need to leave here.

Why Am I Never Content?

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The fact that your father molested you and this has recently come to life is underneath all the turmoil. Everything that you have said about quitting your job and an emotional affair and searching for yourself is understandable coming from your new realizations about your father.

Often during this time people want to make wholesale changes as part of trying to reclaim their identity. But these changes are usually very short and often unsatisfying. Before you end your married life and cut ties with someone who’s known you for a while, and may have been chosen because he was unlike your father, I would have a recommend going into individual therapy to deal specifically with your father’s molestation. Then you can make changes. You may want to ultimately want to leave your marriage or find different types of employment, but just doing these things all at once tends to add to the stress-not relieve it.

Wishing you patience and peace,
Dr. Dan
Proof Positive Blog @ PsychCentral

Why Am I Never Content?

Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP

Dan Tomasulo Ph.D., TEP, MFA, MAPP teaches Positive Psychology in the graduate program of Counseling and Clinical Psychology at Columbia University, Teachers College and works with Martin Seligman, the Father of Positive Psychology in the Masters of Applied Positive Psychology (MAPP) program at the University of Pennsylvania. He is Director of the New York Certification in Positive Psychology for the Open Center in New York City and on faculty at New Jersey City University. Sharecare has honored him as one of the top 10 online influencers on the topic of depression. For more information go to: He also writes for Psych Central's Ask the Therapist column and the Proof Positive blog.

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Tomasulo, D. (2018). Why Am I Never Content?. Psych Central. Retrieved on May 20, 2019, from
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