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Wanting to Rape

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I am a 32-year-old man and I am suffering from severe depression, dissociative disorder, PTSD from physical and sexual abuse and anxiety disorder. I have noticed that I have been drinking a lot since I began dissociating and losing time. Once I drink I dissociate and I am ready for anything, apparently. I have an obsession with raping women. Let me tell you that I am transgender and born female and have been raped myself at least 6 times. I know that it’s wrong and I think I would never want to hurt anyone like that. I haven’t told anyone because I’m scared they are going to lock me up. The more time goes on the more I crave this interaction. I don’t know what to do. Can you help me?

Wanting to Rape

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I admire you courage to write us and begin coping with these intrusive thoughts. There are new, effective treatments as well as tried and true methods to help with each of the symptoms you have mentioned. While I understand your reluctance, therapists don’t have people locked up because of their thoughts and they have tools that may be very helpful. I would highly encourage you to find a clinical psychologist or psychiatrist for an initial evaluation. The find help tab at the top of the page will help you find one in your earlier.

Wishing you patience and peace,
Dr. Dan
Proof Positive Blog @ PsychCentral

Wanting to Rape

Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP

Dan Tomasulo Ph.D., TEP, MFA, MAPP teaches Positive Psychology in the graduate program of Counseling and Clinical Psychology at Columbia University, Teachers College and works with Martin Seligman, the Father of Positive Psychology in the Masters of Applied Positive Psychology (MAPP) program at the University of Pennsylvania. He is Director of the New York Certification in Positive Psychology for the Open Center in New York City and on faculty at New Jersey City University. Sharecare has honored him as one of the top 10 online influencers on the topic of depression. For more information go to: He also writes for Psych Central's Ask the Therapist column and the Proof Positive blog.

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Tomasulo, D. (2018). Wanting to Rape. Psych Central. Retrieved on May 23, 2019, from
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