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Is My Girlfriend Over Me?

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I asked her friend if she is done with me and she said she has been busy with work and soccer that she forgot about me and moved on. I went on vacation or 2 weeks and this is what happened. She said she felt this way for the past 2 weeks. We used to be in love and jumped into the relationship very fast. This came out of [no]where. I told her how much I loved her and how amazing she was everyday and she said the same. 2 months ago she went through something hard. She never told me what it was but all she said is she was not happy with herself when I asked her after I found out we were over. She has a hard home life so maybe that’s part. But things were so good. I don’t know what went wrong? Please help me. This is my first relationship and I don’t know what to do to get over her.

Is My Girlfriend Over Me?

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I know this can be a devastating time. When we feel so strongly for someone and their reaction toward us changes it can be devastating. But to love and lose is an important life lesson. I would take the time to write them all the feelings, good and bad, that you had in this relationship, then either toss the paper away or lock it in a file on your computer. Then I would spend time being in the company of other people — and when you’re ready, ask someone new out on a date. Learning to appreciate the qualities of another person can help you unhook from this loss.

Wishing you patience and peace,
Dr. Dan
Proof Positive Blog @ PsychCentral

Is My Girlfriend Over Me?

Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP

Dan Tomasulo Ph.D., TEP, MFA, MAPP teaches Positive Psychology in the graduate program of Counseling and Clinical Psychology at Columbia University, Teachers College and works with Martin Seligman, the Father of Positive Psychology in the Masters of Applied Positive Psychology (MAPP) program at the University of Pennsylvania. He is Director of the New York Certification in Positive Psychology for the Open Center in New York City and on faculty at New Jersey City University. Sharecare has honored him as one of the top 10 online influencers on the topic of depression. For more information go to: He also writes for Psych Central's Ask the Therapist column and the Proof Positive blog.

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Tomasulo, D. (2018). Is My Girlfriend Over Me?. Psych Central. Retrieved on May 22, 2019, from
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