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Jealousy and Trust Issues with My Girlfriend

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My girlfriend has given me no reason not to trust her but I can’t help but get anxious when she goes out or if I see her on a picture with another guy it really hurts me and makes me angry which then leads into us having an argument. She wants me to change and I have said I will but it’s really hard as it’s just natural for me to be protective and feel that way please help it’s destroying our relationship

Jealousy and Trust Issues with My Girlfriend

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You are caught in what is known as a thinking trap. The way through this is to challenge your thoughts as they come up. As you said there’s nothing in her behavior that would suggest you need to be jealous, but only your thinking makes it so. I highly recommend the book the Resilience Factor to get you started. If that doesn’t give you the results you want then I would look for someone who does cognitive-behavior therapy to help.

Wishing you patience and peace,
Dr. Dan
Proof Positive Blog @ PsychCentral

Jealousy and Trust Issues with My Girlfriend

Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP

Dan Tomasulo Ph.D., TEP, MFA, MAPP teaches Positive Psychology in the graduate program of Counseling and Clinical Psychology at Columbia University, Teachers College and works with Martin Seligman, the Father of Positive Psychology in the Masters of Applied Positive Psychology (MAPP) program at the University of Pennsylvania. He is Director of the New York Certification in Positive Psychology for the Open Center in New York City and on faculty at New Jersey City University. Sharecare has honored him as one of the top 10 online influencers on the topic of depression. For more information go to: He also writes for Psych Central's Ask the Therapist column and the Proof Positive blog.

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Tomasulo, D. (2018). Jealousy and Trust Issues with My Girlfriend. Psych Central. Retrieved on May 20, 2019, from
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