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I’m Too Dependent on My Mom and Boyfriend

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Hello, when I was 16 I was diagnosed with generalized Social Anxiety. I dropped out in the 8th grade because I didn’t fit in and I was so worried about people judging me. My mom is getting social security for me she cooks, for me and still buys me clothes sometimes. My boyfriend has helped us pay are rent 7 times, he buys food for me, took me to a college so I can get enrolled back in school, and so many other things. I want to get a job so I can move out with my boyfriend, but I’m too scared too. I feel as though I’m not smart enough too get a job or go back to school. I also hate being around large groups of people. I know my mom and boyfriend are getting tired of me being so dependent on them. I’ve tried counseling,but it didn’t really work. I’m on Prozac and I’m not sure if it was working cause I hardly ever go out. My therapist gave me a higher dosage,but I’m scared to take them cause I don’t want to go through the side effects. I’m at a lost here. I feel like I’m good for nothing and a waste of space.

I’m Too Dependent on My Mom and Boyfriend

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People who are waste of space don’t take time to seek help. You wrote to us here because you know something needs fixing and you want to change. That desire is the essential ingredient to making positive changes in your life.

I would work with your counselor in establishing some short and long term goals. Here is a link to information about SMART goals that are used with people your age–a system that helps you plan and move toward a goal: http://collegeboundwa.edublogs.org/2012/07/16/smart_goals/

By identifying and creating your own set of goals you can reduce the dependence on others.

Wishing you patience and peace,
Dr. Dan
Proof Positive Blog @ PsychCentral

I’m Too Dependent on My Mom and Boyfriend

Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP

Dan Tomasulo Ph.D., TEP, MFA, MAPP teaches Positive Psychology in the graduate program of Counseling and Clinical Psychology at Columbia University, Teachers College and works with Martin Seligman, the Father of Positive Psychology in the Masters of Applied Positive Psychology (MAPP) program at the University of Pennsylvania. He is Director of the New York Certification in Positive Psychology for the Open Center in New York City and on faculty at New Jersey City University. Sharecare has honored him as one of the top 10 online influencers on the topic of depression. For more information go to: http://www.dare2behappy.com/. He also writes for Psych Central's Ask the Therapist column and the Proof Positive blog.

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Tomasulo, D. (2018). I’m Too Dependent on My Mom and Boyfriend. Psych Central. Retrieved on May 19, 2019, from https://psychcentral.com/ask-the-therapist/2014/07/05/im-too-dependent-on-my-mom-and-boyfriend/
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