Sometimes when a person asks a question they already know the answer. But the answer is so painful that it feels better to keep asking than to accept what they know. I can’t tell you whether to continue your marriage. That’s your decision. I do think you should reread your letter you wrote to me very carefully because I think your analysis is correct. You thought you married a man to make a life together. He thinks you should become an addition to his family of origin. He is not interested in changing his idea. He has stopped treating you like a wife and blames you for the deterioration of your relationship. He isn’t taking responsibility for what is happening so probably will resist the idea of couples counseling, too. If you decide to stay married, my guess is that nothing will change. It’s for you to decide if this is the way you want to live the rest of your life.
I wish you well.