The most efficient way to overcome a phobia is to believe in reality. All phobias are, by definition, irrational fears. Irrational fear is kept “alive” when one doesn’t believe in reality. In your circumstance, you learned through a variety of medical tests that your heart is healthy, yet you simply don’t believe it. It is as though you are rejecting these objective tests. That’s akin to rejecting reality, rejecting your doctor’s educated opinion, rejecting the laboratory results and established medical science.
The farther one moves away from believing in what is real, the more psychologically unhealthy one becomes. Delusions are the ultimate irrational fear. Delusions are strongly held beliefs that exist despite evidence to the contrary. Do your best to try to believe in the truth. Forcing yourself to believe in the truth can preserve your psychological health.
In your case, reality, science and medical testing says that your heart is healthy. Scientific tests have proven that to be true. Believe in science. If you believe in science, then your fears will subside. If you refuse to believe the objective tests (i.e. reject science), then your anxiety will continue.
Perhaps underlying all of this is a fear of death. All people will die. Death is inevitable. We live between the moments of birth and death. How you live between these moments determines your quality of life. Being afraid of death, to the point where it decreases your quality of life, is akin to having died already or having been cheated out of life.
The idea of forcing oneself to believe in reality takes practice. For many people, it’s a new way of thinking. Therapy could greatly assist you in acquiring this new way of thinking. If this continues to be an issue, and is degrading your quality of life, then consider counseling. Please take care.
Dr. Kristina Randle