The fact that you feel all of this as a problem is important. I admire your honesty about identifying these characteristics and traits. If you had a dissociative, avoidant, or antisocial personality you wouldn’t feel this uncomfortable.
Notice the contradictions in what you are saying: You don’t want to stand out, but you have to be right. You want to avoid a conflict, but you are in constant conflict by being annoyed. You don’t care about anything — but are moved by the plight of those who can’t help themselves like abused children. You don’t feel anything and don’t feel guilt, but you are irritated enough to want to change.
Why are there so many contradictions? The source of this irritation is important to contemplate. I would recommend some individual therapy at your university to begin unraveling these internal disputes.