You can try to make your case to Robin about why you think she needs help but be prepared for her to reject your advice. Given the information that you have provided about her, she doesn’t seem willing to seek help, especially because she “doesn’t trust medicine.” Her distrust of medicine might extend to counseling. That type of attitude often means that an individual will be unwilling to seek help, even if it’s obvious to others that it is needed.
On the other hand, her having utilized alternative forms of treatment, in the past, might indicate that she may be open to getting help.
After you have made your case to Robin, you have basically done all that you can. She will either take your advice or she won’t.
That is the unfortunate reality in these situations. People have to want to help themselves.
You can’t force someone to do something they don’t want to do. She is an adult and, despite having a personality disorder, she has the right to say no to treatment.
She blames others for her problems, doesn’t take responsibility for her actions and is on the verge of losing her job (because of her behavior). These actions are characteristics of certain personality disorders. Blaming others for one’s problems and never taking responsibility for one’s own actions are why some personality disorders are so difficult to treat.
If she refuses to seek help, don’t take it personally. She would likely be saying no due to her personality disorder and not because of a personal dislike of you.
Even if she says no to treatment, you can still be her friend and provide emotional support when necessary. That might include calling her once a week or visiting her on occasions, and this may be all that you can do. Please take care.
Dr. Kristina Randle