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My husband and I are of the same culture and same religion and we have known each other for a very long time but everything changed when we got married. I feel like his personality, his attitude and the way he treats me has completely changed. Recently, I posted a fireworks picture on my FB saying “firework make me happy” and he comments saying “which ones”!? Thn he posted this technical information about fireworks and their classifications so I replied “Ok smartie pants haha you actually googled that!? I see that I inspired you to increase your knowledge, that’s what I do I inspire people ;) :-p lol haha” I mean what is wrong with that!? He started dissing me publically and got mad saying I am a manly women and brought up with no manners. He does this almost everyday about something, he jokes at me all day but the moment I do he says it’s not funny n starts cursing n says I am manly. He says I am manly anytime I speak up for myself and defend myself or say something funny, sarcastic or whatever. I do not understand. He has become a total control freak and keeps saying I try to compete with a man blah blah like who does that!? Please help me.

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I don’t know why your husband is feeling so insecure and needing to speak down to you to try and control you, but I wouldn’t wait any longer to get into couple‚Äôs therapy. I would try to nip this behavior in the bud. This shift, for whatever reason, tends not to set a good trend in a relationship. Now is the time find out why this is happening.

If he refuses to go, take the time to begin counseling on your own. You will need outside support to cope with your husband’s behavior and individual therapy can help The find help tab at the top of the page can help you find someone in your area.

Wishing you patience and peace,
Dr. Dan
Proof Positive Blog @ PsychCentral

Husband’s Behavior

Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP

Dan Tomasulo Ph.D., TEP, MFA, MAPP teaches Positive Psychology in the graduate program of Counseling and Clinical Psychology at Columbia University, Teachers College and works with Martin Seligman, the Father of Positive Psychology in the Masters of Applied Positive Psychology (MAPP) program at the University of Pennsylvania. He is Director of the New York Certification in Positive Psychology for the Open Center in New York City and on faculty at New Jersey City University. Sharecare has honored him as one of the top 10 online influencers on the topic of depression. For more information go to: He also writes for Psych Central's Ask the Therapist column and the Proof Positive blog.

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Tomasulo, D. (2018). Husband’s Behavior. Psych Central. Retrieved on March 19, 2019, from
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