I’m sorry you’re having so much difficulty with your mother. But it’s time to scrap it. Mother hasn’t shown much more than functional caring for you and — for whatever reason that is — I wouldn’t waste too much time trying to get blood from a stone. But I also wouldn’t leave being angry. I think it’s worth it to plan your departure. The ultimate goal is for you to be independent and not need much from your mom, if anything. I would tell her you need some time to talk and then explain you feel like a burden rather than loved, and that it’s clear it’s time for you to make your own way in the world. Let her know that you wish it were different, but that you can understand and appreciate the care she has given you. But that it doesn’t feel good. Ask if she would be willing to do some counseling with you, but I wouldn’t hold my breath. If she agrees — great. But if not then make your plans to be less dependent, less available and start to move on.