You were told that you can’t force your child’s father to take medication. That is correct. Generally speaking, people cannot be forced to take medication, even in circumstances when they are clearly unstable and it would improve their condition. There are occasions, mostly in hospital settings, in which an individual can be force-medicated but typically it requires the authorization of two physicians and in some cases, a court order.
I would advise keeping your distance from your child’s father. This situation is volatile. He is harassing and stalking you. You may be in danger. It was wise to get a restraining order against him, but you said he continues to contact you. That should not be the case. You should call the authorities every time he contacts you so that there is a record of his inappropriate and illegal behavior. If he pretends to be well in front of the police, then consider videotaping his behavior outside of the presence of the police. Most cell phones have videotaping capabilities.
Is there a local mental health crisis team in your community? They may be able to advise you about how to best intervene in this situation.
Finally, you may want to consider moving again. You already moved once, but he knows where you live. Is there anywhere you can go, at least temporarily?
I’m sorry that I don’t have a more satisfactory answer for you. Your power is limited in this situation. My best advice is to protect yourself and to call the authorities when necessary. If he were to be arrested, there’s a chance he could receive psychiatric help in jail. Please take care.
Dr. Kristina Randle