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I Think My Boyfriend Is Schizophrenic. What Should I Do?

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I have been in a relationship with a man I believe to be schizophrenic for 2 years. The problem is that he doesn’t believe that there’s anything wrong with him and becomes increasingly paranoid and aggressive if I try to talk to him about it. Sometimes his behaviour is completely normal and other times it’s frightening. At first I didn’t know that anything was wrong, but he frequently hears voices saying negative things and thinks he’s being followed. Sometimes I have been sitting alone in a room with him not speaking and he believes I’ve said something abusive and started shouting at me. He once believed that he was experiencing racial abuse at work and recorded his colleagues. He sent the recordings to several lawyers in an attempt to sue his work place, but there was nothing on the recordings. He also believes that his neighbours are part of a cult and trying to poison him. He has accused me of being a witch and worshipping the devil. He speaks highly of himself and even tried to say he was God. He has never used drugs and only occasionally drinks alcohol. I know he’s not well but his behaviour really hurts. I know that at times he is a wonderful, kind and intelligent man. I don’t think I can continue being in this relationship but I love him and desperately want to help him. I just don’t know how. Please help.

I Think My Boyfriend Is Schizophrenic. What Should I Do?

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Many people with schizophrenia have difficulty recognizing that they are ill. It’s a symptom of the illness. It’s called anosognosia. Anosognosia is a neurological condition that prohibits some people with schizophrenia from recognizing their symptoms.

The major concern is that your boyfriend is becoming increasingly paranoid and aggressive. There are times when he directs his aggression toward you. He has accused you of saying abusive things to him. His symptoms make it difficult for him to think clearly. Without treatment, his symptoms will likely become worse. His behavior will likely become more erratic and less stable.

Do what you can to assist him in seeking treatment but also recognize it’s important to protect yourself. Most people with schizophrenia are not violent but they can be violent, on rare occasions. For instance, your boyfriend believes that his neighbors are trying to poison him. That is a delusion. It’s a symptom of his illness. He might become convinced that he has to protect himself from his neighbors and preemptively attack them. In his mind, he might see a preemptive attack as a form of self-defense. It’s unlikely that he will attack the neighbors or anyone else but that is one example of how untreated symptoms can lead to violence.

Are their family members of his you can contact? If so, they may be able to assist you in convincing him to seek treatment. They may have more influence over him than you do. It’s worth contacting them to ask whether they are willing to help.

You said that he hasn’t sought treatment yet, but has he in the past? If so, perhaps there is a mental health professional who knows his case and can assist you with this situation. They may not be able to legally discuss details of his case with you, but you can give them information about his symptoms.

You can also contact the local mental health crisis team in the event that a situation becomes out of control. They can come to the home, assess his behavior and determine the appropriate course of action.

Finally, you can also contact the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI). NAMI is an advocacy group that provides free information, referrals and support to individuals with mental illnesses and to family members caring for individuals with mental illnesses.

Don’t hesitate to write again if you have additional questions. Please take care.

Dr. Kristina Randle

I Think My Boyfriend Is Schizophrenic. What Should I Do?

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Kristina Randle, Ph.D., LCSW

Kristina Randle, Ph.D., LCSW is a licensed psychotherapist and Assistant Professor of Social Work and Forensics with extensive experience in the field of mental health. She works in private practice with adults, adolescents and families. Kristina has worked in a large array of settings including community mental health, college counseling and university research centers.

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Randle, K. (2018). I Think My Boyfriend Is Schizophrenic. What Should I Do?. Psych Central. Retrieved on August 6, 2020, from
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