A: I don’t feel that you can really make a bad choice in this situation. It sounds like this has been a good learning experience for you and has been the catalyst for you to make some changes that you needed to make. If you want to go back and mend bridges and let him know about the positive changes you have made, I’m sure he would appreciate it. You might even consider rescheduling just so you can have a proper termination. This would give you both a chance to review your progress and have closure.
On the other hand, having a new therapist with a fresh approach can sometimes be a very good idea, especially if you feel that you have reached a plateau with your former therapist. If you choose this option, you can still let him know of your plans so he can forward your records and consult with the new provider.
Finally, taking a break from therapy can give you a chance to put in place the concepts and insights you have gained thus far. Just be sure to monitor yourself closely so you will know when it is time to go back and work on some of the “untouched” issues you mentioned.
My only concern with this choice is that you reported that you have no one to discuss this whole issue with, which prompted you writing in. Sounds like you might need to let some friends or family into your inner world a little more. Don’t underestimate what can be gained from sharing your struggles with the folks already in your life who care about you.
All the best,
Dr. Holly Counts