There was once a mental health disorder called passive aggressive personality disorder contained in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual (DSM). Individuals who had been diagnosed with this disorder complied with the desires of others but internally felt resentful. In the process of seeming compliant, they could covertly express their hostility or anger. It’s possible that he may be demonstrating some of those traits.
To be able to offer an opinion about what might be wrong with him, I would need more information about his personality and his behavior towards others. You have provided some examples, but it’s not enough for me to provide you with an informed opinion. What we do know about him is that he seems rude, insensitive, opinionated and, perhaps, chauvinistic and narcissistic.
You believe that he is an emotional abuser and you do not seem to like being around him. In that case, it may be best to keep your distance. Establish very clear boundaries and do not spend much time in his presence, if you can help it. It’s important to keep yourself and those around you safe.
If you like to write back and provide more details about this individual, I may be able to provide a more informed opinion on this matter. Please take care.
Dr. Kristina Randle