Perhaps one of the most important things that we can learn in life, is that we cannot control what other people think. No one controls your thinking and you cannot control anyone else’s thinking. You can behave perfectly, do absolutely nothing wrong, but people will believe whatever they choose to believe. They may think you are self-centered and the truth might be that you are really selfless. They might think that you are very arrogant and the truth is you are very humble.
A second important point is that you should not care at all what others think of you. You should care that you are a good person with high moral values. But very few people, even if they knew all of the facts of your life, would be qualified to judge you. And those who are qualified to judge you would likely be the last people in this world to judge you.
You say that you cannot get evidence of sexual harassment, yet you mention that sometimes people shout this behind your back. Carrying a small digital recorder should help you capture anything shouted in your direction.
Fifty years ago, homosexuals faced severe discrimination, hatred and physical violence. Today we are supposed to be much more enlightened and evolved. A person’s sexual orientation in no way reflects on their moral character or the goodness of their being. It is beyond obvious to say that there are good and evil homosexuals just as there are good and evil heterosexuals.
Violence is never justified. Any violence that you would perpetrate on to another would likely result in equal damage to yourself, with imprisonment or even execution. The fact that you feel so angry as to consider violence, is evidence of your possessing a very highly-charged emotional state. Your emotional state could greatly be changed with counseling. Counseling or therapy should be your next step. I wish you the best of luck.
Dr. Kristina Randle