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Wife Just Wants to Masturbate

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I caught my wife masturbating and she said she just got horny and was outside so she rubbed her self and it felt real good and she kept going till she had orgasm. Since then she masturbates at least three times a week and don’t get really involved when we have sex. Very mixed up.

Wife Just Wants to Masturbate

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Have a discussion with your wife. If you want to have a more connected relationship with her then you should be talking about your needs and hers. I appreciate that this may be confusing, but talking to your wife about what you are feeling — and what you need — would be a very good place to start. If this doesn’t help then an appointment with a couple’s counselor is the next step. Finding the Help tab at the top of the page will help you find someone in your area.

Wishing you patience and peace,
Dr. Dan
Proof Positive Blog @ PsychCentral

Wife Just Wants to Masturbate

Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP

Dan Tomasulo Ph.D., TEP, MFA, MAPP teaches Positive Psychology in the graduate program of Counseling and Clinical Psychology at Columbia University, Teachers College and works with Martin Seligman, the Father of Positive Psychology in the Masters of Applied Positive Psychology (MAPP) program at the University of Pennsylvania. He is Director of the New York Certification in Positive Psychology for the Open Center in New York City and on faculty at New Jersey City University. Sharecare has honored him as one of the top 10 online influencers on the topic of depression. For more information go to: He also writes for Psych Central's Ask the Therapist column and the Proof Positive blog.

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Tomasulo, D. (2018). Wife Just Wants to Masturbate. Psych Central. Retrieved on May 24, 2019, from
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