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My Father Tries To Control Our Lives

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My dad has always been at the center of my nightmares since forever. He is an abusive person and believes what people say about us and torture our lives without asking us about the truth. He hates that my mom finally got a job and forced her to get credit cards for him so she will be bounded to him. He can’t control himself and believes what he wants to believe, he totally acts like a schizophrenic. My mom can’t fight back anymore because she has no power left, neither do I. I just want this nightmare to be over, because of him my mother tried to commit suicide, and my sister still pees at night. And I never had a boyfriend because of the fear of my father, he stalks us everywhere like a psychopath and sometimes believes his own lies. For example, my mom has a friend from a course and he is at my age, their exams are usually ay the same place so they study together with lots of people. My father hates him and I don’t know what he thinks but keeps making my mother suffer because of his own lies. I do not want to see my mother like this, and I’m going insane too. Please help me. By the way I’m really sorry for my grammar and the other mistakes…

My Father Tries To Control Our Lives

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Your information says that you are in your first year in the university. I would highly recommend contacting counseling center to speak to one of the therapists there. This is very difficult to deal with on your own, but with the support of a therapist you will be able to develop a plan for coping with your father, helping your mom, and gaining greater independence for yourself.

Wishing you patience and peace,
Dr. Dan
Proof Positive Blog @ PsychCentral

My Father Tries To Control Our Lives

Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP

Dan Tomasulo Ph.D., TEP, MFA, MAPP teaches Positive Psychology in the graduate program of Counseling and Clinical Psychology at Columbia University, Teachers College and works with Martin Seligman, the Father of Positive Psychology in the Masters of Applied Positive Psychology (MAPP) program at the University of Pennsylvania. He is Director of the New York Certification in Positive Psychology for the Open Center in New York City and on faculty at New Jersey City University. Sharecare has honored him as one of the top 10 online influencers on the topic of depression. For more information go to: He also writes for Psych Central's Ask the Therapist column and the Proof Positive blog.

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Tomasulo, D. (2018). My Father Tries To Control Our Lives. Psych Central. Retrieved on May 22, 2019, from
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