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Grieving and Depressed Again

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I have been a widow over eight years, and have been treated for depression and anxiety on and off longer than that. As far as my grief is concerned, I was healing well. However, the past 6 months, my grief has come back with a vengeance, and my general depression and anxiety have been worse. I am missing my husband more than I have in years, and no one understands. When my friends complain about their “stupid” husbands bringing the wrong item home from the store, not asking for directions, not parenting the kids “right”, etc. I just want to run out of the room screaming. I’m not talking about those who are/were married to abusive jerks, I’m talking about the ones who are blessed to still have good husbands that mess up sometimes, but they just want to put them down so they can feel superior. And when I hear them talk about how great it is when their husbands are having to work late or are out of the house for any other reason because hubby is not there to get on their nerves, my heart breaks. I know we all need a break from our loved ones sometimes, but right now I would give anything to be annoyed by my husband, yet my married friends don’t even appreciate the good times, and patronize me when I tell them how I feel. I am also struggling at work, but none of the alternatives appeal to me. Plus I am having disabling panic attacks. I don’t know what to do!!!

Grieving and Depressed Again

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I am so sorry that you are feeling so much grief about your loss. I think the best thing to do is to work with a counselor who specializes in grieving. Often the community hospitals have a group that helps with loss, and sometimes there are private practitioners that have that specialty. I would check with the hospitals first as they often have low or no cost options for grief counseling. Here is some further information that might help.

Wishing you patience and peace,
Dr. Dan
Proof Positive Blog @ PsychCentral

Grieving and Depressed Again

Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP

Dan Tomasulo Ph.D., TEP, MFA, MAPP teaches Positive Psychology in the graduate program of Counseling and Clinical Psychology at Columbia University, Teachers College and works with Martin Seligman, the Father of Positive Psychology in the Masters of Applied Positive Psychology (MAPP) program at the University of Pennsylvania. He is Director of the New York Certification in Positive Psychology for the Open Center in New York City and on faculty at New Jersey City University. Sharecare has honored him as one of the top 10 online influencers on the topic of depression. For more information go to: http://www.dare2behappy.com/. He also writes for Psych Central's Ask the Therapist column and the Proof Positive blog.

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Tomasulo, D. (2018). Grieving and Depressed Again. Psych Central. Retrieved on January 20, 2019, from https://psychcentral.com/ask-the-therapist/2014/03/09/grieving-and-depressed-again/
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