Thanks for sending in your question. It actually sounds like you have a pretty good sense of what to do. You’ve only been dating a short time and as the relationship is going on you’ve seen and experienced more things that aren’t okay with you. She’s asking you to do something you don’t want to do, and don’t believe in. Don’t assume this is going to get better. She’s telling you very clearly where she is –and what she wants. You seemed equally clear in saying you don’t agree with her.
So for right now –keep dating. There is no pressure for anyone to get married and there’s a lot more to learn. There are some clear differences that would have to be worked out if you did decide to get together.
Take your time this is a financial, emotional, and complex situation. No need to rush.