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Ever since I can remember I’ve always bin uncomfortable around people. It was pretty bad in elementary school, I had 1 friend and she would talk for me and defend me. I always felt like everyone is judging me, like I wasn’t good enough. I remember thinking I wasn’t good enough to even wear certain clothes, I even feel like when people do comment on my clothes or hair they don’t really mean it and think the opposite. In school, walking the hallways is terrifying, its like everyone is starring at me. Recently I’ve bin locking myself in my room for 2 days or so on and off. For some reason I just cant even bring myself to even be around family sometimes. I get this overwhelming feeling that I’ve done something wrong out of nowhere even if I haven’t and just hide away until I get super hungry or I feel ok again. If I miss a day of school I end up missing a week or 2 because I cant confront the teachers after, even when doing co-op I ended up quitting every placement because I couldn’t handle it anymore. What should I do? Why am I like this?

Uncomfortable Around People

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While I don’t know why you are like this I can say that there are a number of things you can do to cope with it. I believe in this instance by treating the symptoms we will be taking care of the problems at their core. I would encourage you to find a therapist in your are that specializes in CBT, cognitive –behavioral therapy. The find help tab at the top of the page can help find someone in your area.

This approach focuses on changing how you think and behave specifically, which I believe will give you the fastest and best results.

Wishing you patience and peace,
Dr. Dan
Proof Positive Blog @ PsychCentral

Uncomfortable Around People

Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP

Dan Tomasulo Ph.D., TEP, MFA, MAPP teaches Positive Psychology in the graduate program of Counseling and Clinical Psychology at Columbia University, Teachers College and works with Martin Seligman, the Father of Positive Psychology in the Masters of Applied Positive Psychology (MAPP) program at the University of Pennsylvania. He is Director of the New York Certification in Positive Psychology for the Open Center in New York City and on faculty at New Jersey City University. Sharecare has honored him as one of the top 10 online influencers on the topic of depression. For more information go to: He also writes for Psych Central's Ask the Therapist column and the Proof Positive blog.

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Tomasulo, D. (2018). Uncomfortable Around People. Psych Central. Retrieved on March 22, 2019, from
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