You should not ignore your boyfriend’s behavior but your biggest challenge is dealing with your relationship issues while avoiding homelessness. You should talk to him about his behavior and inform him that you and he cannot have a healthy relationship if he is actively pursuing other women. If he wants to salvage the relationship, then he needs to change his behavior accordingly.
Another way to approach this situation is to ask him if he’d attend couples counseling. If so, it’s evidence that he has a desire to save the relationship.
In the meantime, you should be attempting to determine if maintaining the relationship is viable. If he will not stop pursuing other women, after you’ve informed him that it is damaging the relationship, then it’s unlikely that your relationship will last. In this case, you should be planning your next steps, particularly how to acquire the necessary financial resources to avoid homelessness, should the relationship end.
You’re in a challenging predicament. Your goal, at this point, is to determine if the relationship is viable while also developing a backup plan should you no longer live with him. Is there anyone else you can live with? Could you live with a parent? A sibling? A friend? Those are the types of questions you should be considering while you still have a place to live. I wish you the best of luck. Please take care.
Dr. Kristina Randle