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My parents never listen to me and they don’t understand the things I go through. And they are always judging who I hangout with. I’m a dating a real amazing guy who I deeply love. My parents are judging
him before they even meet him really want my parents to listen to me and give me a chance to talk.

Parents Never Listen

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Thank you for your email. I would schedule a time to talk to parents when things are not heated. But I would rehearse for this before the meeting. Think about the points you want to make, and you’ll need to have examples of when you felt diminished by them. Be clear about what you need.

At 20 years of age your parents sound like they are treating you more like you are 15. Explain that you are a young woman with different needs now then you had back then.

If you don’t feel comfortable doing this, you may want to request having a couple of sessions with a family counselor skilled in negotiating the labyrinth of family dynamics.

Wishing you patience and peace,
Dr. Dan
Proof Positive Blog @ PsychCentral

Parents Never Listen

Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP

Dan Tomasulo Ph.D., TEP, MFA, MAPP teaches Positive Psychology in the graduate program of Counseling and Clinical Psychology at Columbia University, Teachers College and works with Martin Seligman, the Father of Positive Psychology in the Masters of Applied Positive Psychology (MAPP) program at the University of Pennsylvania. He is Director of the New York Certification in Positive Psychology for the Open Center in New York City and on faculty at New Jersey City University. Sharecare has honored him as one of the top 10 online influencers on the topic of depression. For more information go to: He also writes for Psych Central's Ask the Therapist column and the Proof Positive blog.

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Tomasulo, D. (2018). Parents Never Listen. Psych Central. Retrieved on March 23, 2019, from
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