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I’m Afraid I’m Might Have Pedophilia

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Hi, I’m 16 and female and I really afraid that I might have pedophilia. Disturbing thoughts keep popping into my head and they freak me out. I keep researching about pedophilia but none of it tells me if I have pedophilia. And I can’t talk to my family about this because of family history. I try to stop the thoughts from happening but they don’t stop. And I don’t think I’m aroused by children but I look at kids and ask myself if I am or not and then I get a weird feeling. And I freak out. I’ve also researched OCD to see if that’s it too. But I can’t tell. I just really need help and I can’t ask anyone I know for help because I’m ashamed. please help me this is really scaring me.

I’m Afraid I’m Might Have Pedophilia

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It must’ve taken a great deal of courage to write us here at Psych Central. Thank you. There is too little information in your email to know exactly what’s going on. But a family history and repetitive, intrusive and disturbing thoughts are causing you concern. This suggests that you will want to talk this over with a professional.

If you feel there is no way you can talk to your parents or older sibling about this then I would do one of two things: Because of your age I would either talk to your high school’s guidance counselor, or contact the local women’s center in your county. Both of these places are good ways to start.

Wishing you patience and peace,
Dr. Dan
Proof Positive Blog @ PsychCentral

I’m Afraid I’m Might Have Pedophilia

Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP

Dan Tomasulo Ph.D., TEP, MFA, MAPP teaches Positive Psychology in the graduate program of Counseling and Clinical Psychology at Columbia University, Teachers College and works with Martin Seligman, the Father of Positive Psychology in the Masters of Applied Positive Psychology (MAPP) program at the University of Pennsylvania. He is Director of the New York Certification in Positive Psychology for the Open Center in New York City and on faculty at New Jersey City University. Sharecare has honored him as one of the top 10 online influencers on the topic of depression. For more information go to: He also writes for Psych Central's Ask the Therapist column and the Proof Positive blog.

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Tomasulo, D. (2018). I’m Afraid I’m Might Have Pedophilia. Psych Central. Retrieved on May 23, 2019, from
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