You might be familiar with the saying “you can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make him drink.” You can make suggestions, give advice, and so forth but unless your friend is willing to make changes to his own life, or seek mental health treatment, there’s little else you can do.
You have spent a great deal of effort trying to assist your friend but he has to decide to take ownership of his own life. You’ve done all that you can.
People have to want to help themselves. You’ve attempted to show him how to improve his life but he is unwilling to try. That’s the unfortunate reality with some people. They don’t and won’t do what is necessary to improve their lives.
You have done nothing wrong in this situation. Realize that you can’t force him to do anything. He is fully capable of seeking help and he has chosen not to.
His behavior has led to the demise of many relationships. It might ultimately lead to the demise of your relationship as well. That is one of the many consequences of his inaction.
Maybe, someday, he will realize the error of his ways but for now, you’ve done all you can. Accept him as he is and remain friends or end the friendship. Those are your basic choices. Please take care.
Dr. Kristina Randle