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Am I Stuck in My Decision?

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My husband and I have been together for 30 years, with many problems including drinking and drugs (his addiction). He didn’t help me raise the kids, one his, one mine, and one from both of us. We were separated since 1994, and I just moved back in 2009. We had a lot of problems still, even fighting over the kids still, even though they were out of the home. I had an online affair, and got caught, it took a year to get him back to normal again. I am having an affair again, online, because he is impotent, and won’t do anything about it. It feels like he is my child, because he acts like one. Now, his daughter has left her almost 2 year old with us, which I told him would happen, and I want to raise her, but I don’t want to live wioth my husband. I have no car anymore, and very little money… should I just give up on leaving?

Am I Stuck in My Decision?

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I think you owe it to yourself to make a plan to better your life. The question is: What is in this relationship for you? You’re not in love, you don’t seem to have a functional relationship with him, you speak about the relationship as if you were trapped, and there are no signs of improvement.

The real question is: Why would you stay? I would highly recommend finding the local women’s center and begin counseling with them. Most women’s center offer low- or no-cost counseling, and it seems that would be the first step in getting enough support to leave.

Wishing you patience and peace,
Dr. Dan
Proof Positive Blog @ PsychCentral

Am I Stuck in My Decision?

Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP

Dan Tomasulo Ph.D., TEP, MFA, MAPP teaches Positive Psychology in the graduate program of Counseling and Clinical Psychology at Columbia University, Teachers College and works with Martin Seligman, the Father of Positive Psychology in the Masters of Applied Positive Psychology (MAPP) program at the University of Pennsylvania. He is Director of the New York Certification in Positive Psychology for the Open Center in New York City and on faculty at New Jersey City University. Sharecare has honored him as one of the top 10 online influencers on the topic of depression. For more information go to: http://www.dare2behappy.com/. He also writes for Psych Central's Ask the Therapist column and the Proof Positive blog.

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Tomasulo, D. (2018). Am I Stuck in My Decision?. Psych Central. Retrieved on January 16, 2019, from https://psychcentral.com/ask-the-therapist/2013/12/07/am-i-stuck-in-my-decision/
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