This is a tough one. The fact that you live so far apart and there is no opportunity for couples therapy right now makes the issue very difficult because of the feelings youâ€™ve described.
I think for the moment what I would do is set up a couples therapy weekend where the two of you could work with other couples and a trained therapist to learn more about managing your long-distance love. Here is a link to one of the better-known programs.
Long-distance relationships can work, but they take some genuine attention to mutual appreciation for each other. Here’s a recent article I’ve written about this topic.