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Too Much Sex Drive

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I constantly have sexual urge. Could this be normal? I easily fall in love and get hurt by emotions.

Too Much Sex Drive

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There is a difference between a sex urge and sexual activity. Men think about sex quite often. According to some of the better research the greater frequency may be nearly three dozen times a day on average. So the urge and the thought may not be as abnormal as you might think.

However, the experience of constantly falling in love and getting hurt is a different matter. It sounds like you may be falling for the wrong people. Perhaps the most direct way for coping with this is to find a group therapy practitioner who works with men and women in the same group. This can help sort through your reactions and allow you to learn more about finding people who will reciprocate your feelings.

Wishing you patience and peace,
Dr. Dan
Proof Positive Blog @ PsychCentral

Too Much Sex Drive

Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP

Dan Tomasulo Ph.D., TEP, MFA, MAPP teaches Positive Psychology in the graduate program of Counseling and Clinical Psychology at Columbia University, Teachers College and works with Martin Seligman, the Father of Positive Psychology in the Masters of Applied Positive Psychology (MAPP) program at the University of Pennsylvania. He is Director of the New York Certification in Positive Psychology for the Open Center in New York City and on faculty at New Jersey City University. Sharecare has honored him as one of the top 10 online influencers on the topic of depression. For more information go to: He also writes for Psych Central's Ask the Therapist column and the Proof Positive blog.

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Tomasulo, D. (2018). Too Much Sex Drive. Psych Central. Retrieved on May 23, 2019, from
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