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Possible Child Molestation

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I am a babysitter for a 5-year-old little girl that lives next door to my husband and me. The girl’s father isn’t in the picture and her mother is engaged to my husband’s cousin, and the little girl has known him as a father figure. But he was put into prison for having sexual relations with a younger teen when he was younger. He is in the police records on where he lives because they have to let people know he lives in their area. The little girls mom thought that he was done and over with all of the under age fantasies he had. But until the other day she read a text that was sent to my husbands phone saying, “I tried…. she had her pj bottoms on and she was on her stomach. Maybe we can get “blank” and “blank” to go out one night and leave the kids here and I’ll knock her out with some Benadryl.” Her and me wanted to go kick their butts!! But we didn’t want to jump to conclusions because it could possibly be a total different story. We are very concerned parents that need help on what we should do.

Possible Child Molestation

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The stakes are too high for you to worry about jumping to conclusions. It is time for you to act by getting more direct legal advice.

I would look for the women’s center in your county or contact your state bar association and ask where you could get free legal advice. There are advocacy programs and child abuse programs that typically offer free legal opinions. I would highly recommend this avenue.

I would rather see you make the error of acting on your impulse too soon rather than too late. Here is one resource to help get you started.

Wishing you patience and peace,
Dr. Dan
Proof Positive Blog @ PsychCentral

Possible Child Molestation

Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP

Dan Tomasulo Ph.D., TEP, MFA, MAPP teaches Positive Psychology in the graduate program of Counseling and Clinical Psychology at Columbia University, Teachers College and works with Martin Seligman, the Father of Positive Psychology in the Masters of Applied Positive Psychology (MAPP) program at the University of Pennsylvania. He is Director of the New York Certification in Positive Psychology for the Open Center in New York City and on faculty at New Jersey City University. Sharecare has honored him as one of the top 10 online influencers on the topic of depression. For more information go to: He also writes for Psych Central's Ask the Therapist column and the Proof Positive blog.

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Tomasulo, D. (2018). Possible Child Molestation. Psych Central. Retrieved on May 23, 2019, from
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