As of now, I at home dealing with certain medial problems on my end. However, I noticed almost immediately something in my mom: she feels lost. She has found a delicate balance between depression, anger and anxiety. She feels that everyone is taking things away from her. Her thought process is both irrational and paranoid. As of now, I can’t do anything to help. I know it is not my responsibility to help but who else does she have? My father is a coward and feels himself the victim, thus resenting my mother for everything. It is his responsibility to help my mother but he has shirked his duty to the point where she has become unbearable. I have a responsibility to get her the help she needs. At certain points in time she realizes she needs help but then her anxiety and anger will push her away from it. Please help me help her. I don’t want to fail her.
Your parents need to have the dignity of coping with their own relationship and their own issues. I think your observations and insights are important and may be helpful if they can be applied.
I recommend that you find a family counselor. The three of you should go for a family session where you can explain what you see, and what the impact has been on you. The family therapist can hear this along with your parents, and can help plan the next best thing to do to help all of you.
Dan Tomasulo Ph.D., TEP, MFA, MAPP teaches Positive Psychology in the graduate program of Counseling and Clinical Psychology at Columbia University, Teachers College and works with Martin Seligman, the Father of Positive Psychology in the Masters of Applied Positive Psychology (MAPP) program at the University of Pennsylvania. He is Director of the New York Certification in Positive Psychology for the Open Center in New York City and on faculty at New Jersey City University. Sharecare has honored him as one of the top 10 online influencers on the topic of depression. For more information go to: http://www.dare2behappy.com/. He also writes for Psych Central's Ask the Therapist column and the Proof Positive blog.
APA Reference Tomasulo, D. (2018). Coping with Mom’s Changeable Moods. Psych Central.
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