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Don’t Feel like an Adult

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I turned 18 a while ago. I feel like I’m still a kid. I keep envisioning this future where I’m doing okay, and I’m actually a very classy lady. I’ve asked my fiancé (wedding is planned for about five years in the future, have to get through college first) to stop calling me things like “cute”. I don’t want to be seen as a little kid. We’ve been dating since Junior year and he almost looks the same. But sometimes when I look at him I see how much of a man he has become. I don’t feel like I’ve aged at all since I was 16, and I’m worried that I will never look like an actual adult woman. I think it mostly stems from not feeling like one… I thought in college I’d get my chance but their restrictions on freshmen are strict. I feel like I’m never going to get the chance to grow into a woman from this girl form of mine. I’m also worried he will leave me behind in that department… How can I feel more the way I want to?

Don’t Feel like an Adult

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Don’t Feel like an Adult

Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP

Dan Tomasulo Ph.D., TEP, MFA, MAPP teaches Positive Psychology in the graduate program of Counseling and Clinical Psychology at Columbia University, Teachers College and works with Martin Seligman, the Father of Positive Psychology in the Masters of Applied Positive Psychology (MAPP) program at the University of Pennsylvania. He is Director of the New York Certification in Positive Psychology for the Open Center in New York City and on faculty at New Jersey City University. Sharecare has honored him as one of the top 10 online influencers on the topic of depression. For more information go to: He also writes for Psych Central's Ask the Therapist column and the Proof Positive blog.

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Tomasulo, D. (2018). Don’t Feel like an Adult. Psych Central. Retrieved on May 20, 2019, from
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