She might have quite wholesome intentions but it seems as though she may have crossed the line. It is unusual that she procured your phone number from another student, for the purpose of asking you to spend the day with her and her children. It makes you feel uncomfortable and professionally speaking, it is outside the boundaries of what is considered appropriate behavior.
First and foremost, it’s important to tell your parents about the correspondence. They need to be fully informed about this situation. I would also recommend that you do not respond to her texts. You are not obligated to explain your lack of a response but you can tell her that if she wants to communicate with you any further, that it must be done through your parents.
Understandably, having to tell your parents about this matter might put you in a precarious situation. You may not want her to get into trouble. Giving her the benefit of the doubt, she might think these extraordinary measures are appropriate; however, she may have gone too far.
The most responsible course of action, is to involve your parents who can then report it to the school so that this situation can be corrected.
Your counselor may be the kindest, most well-intended person on this earth but it is never appropriate, for her, to invite you to spend the weekend with her or to discuss you with her children. From what you have written, she is wrong, dead wrong.
She should not be text messaging you or forcing you to stop by her office to say hello. Her behavior is simply not acceptable. She is dead wrong, even if she may be well intended.
Finally, I want to commend you on your keen observational skills. You were right to ask this question and to suspect that something might be wrong. Don’t hesitate to write again if you have additional questions or concerns. Please take care.
Dr. Kristina Randle
Mental Health & Criminal Justice Blog