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I Resent My Sister

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So, growing up with my sister I made many sacrifices and took care of her , our parents were physically and emotionally unavailable , so I took it upon myself to protect her and that was no easy task ; given she had major behavioral problems and ADHD . As we developed into adults I never was able to stop being more like a parent . I continued to take care of her , even financially . I was always there for her no matter what . The stress of having poor parents , a sister who took advantage of me and dating a man who treated me badly made me so depressed . The depression changed me and instead a sister who helped me when I needed help , I got a sister who turned on me and starred horrible rumors about me . I’m so sad about it . I just want to move on . But I’m so sad . Please help me move on.

I Resent My Sister

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I am so sorry you had so many challenges growing up. Your instinct to want to move on is a good one. But it sounds like it is time for a change at many levels. I would strongly encourage you to begin individual therapy or group therapy to develop a support network that will help you make this transition. It sounds like it is time for you to devote your financial, emotional and psychological resources to your own development. In order to do this, creating a support network will be helpful. Group therapy is often a very good way to do this. The find help tab at the top of the page will give you names of therapists in your area.

Change doesn’t happen overnight, however, so see this as a time for transitioning into a new way of being. I would work with your therapist to develop both short- and long-range goals that help you get more of what you want and leave behind those things and people that have not worked well for you.

Wishing you patience and peace,
Dr. Dan
Proof Positive Blog @ PsychCentral

I Resent My Sister

Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP

Dan Tomasulo Ph.D., TEP, MFA, MAPP teaches Positive Psychology in the graduate program of Counseling and Clinical Psychology at Columbia University, Teachers College and works with Martin Seligman, the Father of Positive Psychology in the Masters of Applied Positive Psychology (MAPP) program at the University of Pennsylvania. He is Director of the New York Certification in Positive Psychology for the Open Center in New York City and on faculty at New Jersey City University. Sharecare has honored him as one of the top 10 online influencers on the topic of depression. For more information go to: He also writes for Psych Central's Ask the Therapist column and the Proof Positive blog.

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Tomasulo, D. (2018). I Resent My Sister. Psych Central. Retrieved on March 24, 2019, from
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