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Worried about Parents’ Reaction to Boyfriend

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I’m 18 and I don’t know what to do 2-3 weeks ago I invited my boyfriend over to my house when nobody was here, I just wanted to hang out with him not like I wanted to do anything else. My stepdad unexpectedly came home and found him in my room he kicked him out and I was really scared he thought we had sex when we didn’t! I insisted for him to not tell my mom since she’s sick and tired how she’s going to react he hasn’t told her but he wants to talk to his parents since he thinks I’m going to bring him again since its summer and I’m home alone all day. I’m going crazy I’m really stressing over this a lot of things are going through my mind I don’t want his parents to think bad about me like my stepdad did and hate me. I don’t want to break up with my boyfriend my mom really likes him and if she finds out she going to dislike him.

Worried about Parents’ Reaction to Boyfriend

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Thank you for asking this important question. The main feature here is to be willing to negotiate with your stepdad about your expectations and his. I would highly recommend you sit down and talk about what your needs are concerning with your boyfriend — and what your commitment to your stepdad is with regard to having your boyfriend over. It seems like both of you have to review each other’s expectations.

Wishing you patience and peace,
Dr. Dan
Proof Positive Blog @ PsychCentral

Worried about Parents’ Reaction to Boyfriend

Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP

Dan Tomasulo Ph.D., TEP, MFA, MAPP teaches Positive Psychology in the graduate program of Counseling and Clinical Psychology at Columbia University, Teachers College and works with Martin Seligman, the Father of Positive Psychology in the Masters of Applied Positive Psychology (MAPP) program at the University of Pennsylvania. He is Director of the New York Certification in Positive Psychology for the Open Center in New York City and on faculty at New Jersey City University. Sharecare has honored him as one of the top 10 online influencers on the topic of depression. For more information go to: He also writes for Psych Central's Ask the Therapist column and the Proof Positive blog.

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Tomasulo, D. (2018). Worried about Parents’ Reaction to Boyfriend. Psych Central. Retrieved on March 24, 2019, from
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