Yes, therapy can help immensely. It’s all about finding the right therapist. It didn’t go well with your last psychologist but they’re not all the same. It’s not uncommon for people to try multiple therapists before they find the one they like and who is able to help them.
The tone of your letter is pessimistic. That’s understandable, since you seem depressed. You’re also minimizing your suffering. For instance, you say that your father beating you is “not a huge issue.” Of course it is. It’s abusive and also illegal. By minimizing this issue it’s almost like saying “I’m not important.” Feeling unworthy is also a sign of depression.
Many teenagers are suffering with serious psychological problems but feel as though they can’t ask their parents for help. They’re embarrassed or believe that their parents will refuse their request for treatment. Then there are others who have asked their parents to take them to a therapist and were devastated when they said no. You have the opposite problem. Your parents took you to treatment when you didn’t want to go. It wasn’t pleasant but you survived the experience. What’s fortunate about your situation is that your parents are willing to take you to a therapist. It means you have the opportunity to be helped whereas other people may not.
Utilize the help that is offered to you. I typically advise people to interview at least four or five therapists before they make a decision. Inquire about their successes with past clients, how they think they could help you and choose the one with whom you feel the most comfortable. Ask your parents to assist you in this process.
You feel as though there is no hope for you but really there is a great deal of hope for you. Many people think they can’t be helped but they’re wrong. I have witnessed how helpful therapy can be. Try a new therapist. If it’s not successful continue searching until you find a therapist you like. Be persistent. It will be worth your effort. Please take care.
Dr. Kristina Randle
Mental Health & Criminal Justice Blog