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Not Getting Along with My Boyfriend

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My boyfriend and I have been dating for about a year. We’ve been through a lot but always found a way to work things out. Our biggest problem I believe is communication and my insecurities. We have taken some big steps recently. We both have children and introduced them to each other a few weeks ago. He has also met my father and my son’s father. However, I have yet to meet his parents. Sometimes that bothers me because it makes me feel like I’m not good enough in his eyes. Recently I stayed the night with him and everything was fine until the early morning. He got up around 4-5 and just left the room. I was just laying there wondering if I did something. He comes back in about an hour or two and lays back down. At this point I had to get up to go to work. I was very upset and just left without saying a word. We had had a heated discussion via text that morning but nothing was resolved. I have not heard from him since. I am unsure of what course of action I should take? Should I reach out to him or let him be?

Not Getting Along with My Boyfriend

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Reach out. When couples go to the next level of intimacy and inclusion many dynamics are activated and fears can be aroused. The key is to talk, not text, about it. Sit down and begin talking about what you need and want from the relationship. I would do this sooner rather than later. You may want to find a couples therapist to help you through this. Check the find help tab at the top of this page to find one in your area.

Wishing you patience and peace,
Dr. Dan
Proof Positive Blog @ PsychCentral

Not Getting Along with My Boyfriend

Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP

Dan Tomasulo Ph.D., TEP, MFA, MAPP teaches Positive Psychology in the graduate program of Counseling and Clinical Psychology at Columbia University, Teachers College and works with Martin Seligman, the Father of Positive Psychology in the Masters of Applied Positive Psychology (MAPP) program at the University of Pennsylvania. He is Director of the New York Certification in Positive Psychology for the Open Center in New York City and on faculty at New Jersey City University. Sharecare has honored him as one of the top 10 online influencers on the topic of depression. For more information go to: He also writes for Psych Central's Ask the Therapist column and the Proof Positive blog.

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Tomasulo, D. (2018). Not Getting Along with My Boyfriend. Psych Central. Retrieved on May 22, 2019, from
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