You may be experiencing generalized anxiety and depression. Sadness, irritability, low energy, mood instability, and feeling disconnected from others are all signs of depression. Sweating when interacting with others may be a sign of anxiety. Sometimes people sweat in social situations because they are nervous and lack self-confidence.
We shouldn’t forget the possibility of a sleep disorder. Many of the emotional issues that you are describing can come from sleep deprivation.
At the time that you were dating your girlfriend four years ago, you were physically exhausting yourself. You physically exhausted your body during the day and didn’t rest at night. Without that much-needed rest, you didn’t function well. No one could function well in that situation. You resented your girlfriend for “keeping you up all night” but you should have insisted on rest.
You’ve noticed these problems becoming increasingly worse for the last four years. They are obviously degrading your life. I would recommend having a psychological evaluation and a physical exam. Remember, you wrote that you wake up tired. It could be caused by a sleeping disorder. Therapy could be immensely helpful to you. Depression and anxiety are very treatable conditions. Psychotherapy can be highly effective. Medication helps many people. You should not allow yourself to continue to suffer when there are effective psychological treatments available. Please take care.
Dr. Kristina Randle
Mental Health & Criminal Justice Blog