In year 12 of high school I took my cousin to my GP as she did not have a doctor. I have had the same doctor since I was 15 but for some reason I hate that my cousin sees the same doctor as me, even though I took her there to begin with. I was close to my cousin and helped her through a lot, but we drifted apart as she was very belittling of me and always made my confidence take a dive. I have also spent the last ten yrs in and out of hospital for multiple shunt revisions, now my family treats me like I am a child, the only person who supports me and doesn’t treat me that way is my GP, I liked the fact when I saw my doctor I was not relying on anyone else and we have a great friendship (she is a mother of 2 kids), but I don’t know why I get so jealous that my cousin sees her too. Seeing as I took her there in the first place? I have tried talking to my cousin but she just yells all the time. What can I do?
Since your GP is so close I would talk to her about the dilemma. She is likely to have had dealings with this type of issue and may have a creative solution – like perhaps having your cousin see a colleague.
The point here is that you need to talk about this with someone and your GP has been your go-to person for a while. I would draw on this relationship.
Dan Tomasulo Ph.D., TEP, MFA, MAPP teaches Positive Psychology in the graduate program of Counseling and Clinical Psychology at Columbia University, Teachers College and works with Martin Seligman, the Father of Positive Psychology in the Masters of Applied Positive Psychology (MAPP) program at the University of Pennsylvania. He is Director of the New York Certification in Positive Psychology for the Open Center in New York City and on faculty at New Jersey City University. Sharecare has honored him as one of the top 10 online influencers on the topic of depression. For more information go to: http://www.dare2behappy.com/. He also writes for Psych Central's Ask the Therapist column and the Proof Positive blog.
APA Reference Tomasulo, D. (2018). Hate Sharing My GP with My Cousin. Psych Central.
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