You deserve more. If your boyfriend is treating you like this now and thinks it is acceptable he most likely doesn’t have the enthusiasm to make the long haul. Don’t put the cart before the horse about having a child with him. If he isn’t treating you the way you need to be treated now, find out if he can improve—or move on. I would explain what you need from him very clearly, being certain to acknowledge his efforts. Give him examples of what you are talking about, and remember that men will most often show love through action –so be certain you tell him what he can be doing. Finally be sure to ask him what he needs from you. The best relationships are reciprocal. He may not know how to ask for what he needs.
Then give it some time and see if there is an improvement. If there is then you can plan more of your life together. If not, then you can plan your departure.