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My mother hasn’t been around most of my life. She has been a drug addict since before I was born and my parents divorced when I was 5. Then she moved back in when I was 7 or 8 and my dad kicked her out for good when I was around 14. She was bipolar and depressed a lot. My girlfriend thinks I have issues because of this and I think it’s a major reason I can never trust a girl. Also most of my friends think I’m very insensitive and rude to people especially to my girlfriend but I don’t ever feel I’m being rude. Are their any particular issues guys can have from being raised without a mom? I couldn’t find anything on it so I guess it’s not common.

Raised Without a Mom

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Thank you for asking this question. The best thing I can say is that there are concerns whenever a parent is emotionally unavailable. In your mom’s case her mental illness and drug addiction kept her from being emotionally and then physically available to you. When this happens people cope in a variety of different ways. The coping style is likely to be something that will inform your future relationships. Here are two articles I have written on this process that may be helpful for you. My encouragement is to go to the counseling center at your university and begin talking about this. I think will help you learn more about your coping mechanism and how it may be affecting you.

Wishing you patience and peace,
Dr. Dan
Proof Positive Blog @ PsychCentral

Raised Without a Mom

Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP

Dan Tomasulo Ph.D., TEP, MFA, MAPP teaches Positive Psychology in the graduate program of Counseling and Clinical Psychology at Columbia University, Teachers College and works with Martin Seligman, the Father of Positive Psychology in the Masters of Applied Positive Psychology (MAPP) program at the University of Pennsylvania. He is Director of the New York Certification in Positive Psychology for the Open Center in New York City and on faculty at New Jersey City University. Sharecare has honored him as one of the top 10 online influencers on the topic of depression. For more information go to: He also writes for Psych Central's Ask the Therapist column and the Proof Positive blog.

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Tomasulo, D. (2018). Raised Without a Mom. Psych Central. Retrieved on March 22, 2019, from
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