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Should I Quit Therapy?

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I have recently started seeing a therapist and he said I have depression and PTSD from severe childhood abuse by many people. Needless to say, I have trust issues. He is te first therapist that I have been able to open up to, as he is a very grand-fatherly type of person. I have only had 5 sessions so far, so I’ve been seeing him less than a month. I still don’t feel any better though. I am only just getting to where I can talk to him without getting so stressed I feel sick. He says its because I’m fighting the trust I’m starting to feel for him, which I think is true. But how long edits this starts to feel better? I’m starting to feel like I’m just wasting mine and his time. He is telling me how to try to change my thoughts in things, but I swear it’s like my brain refuses to listen to me. Is this normal? I guess I just assumed that this would be a few discussions and I would stop having flashbacks and nightmares, but it’s not. I don’t want him to think I’m not taking what he says seriously, and I haven’t even told him that in addition to childhood abuse, I was raped a year ago. I’m not even sure I should tell him. It seems so extreme that I don’t think he will believe that all this happened to me, I I hadn’t experienced it I wouldn’t even believe it. I don’t want him to think I’m making it up for attention, like my mother does. I hate the way I feel, and he tells me it takes time, but shouldn’t I be feeling at least a little better now after nearly a month? I feel a little better by the time the session is over, because he is such a sweet older man, you can’t help but feel comforted, but a few hours after my appointment everything is back again. I just want another opinion. I feel stupid that I know he is right but I can’t stop feeling bad.

Should I Quit Therapy?

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It’s important to be realistic about therapy. You may be minimizing the progress you’ve made. As you noted, this is the first therapist with whom you’ve been open. The fact that you finally found a therapist that you are only now beginning to trust should be considered a major accomplishment.

Also, you have only had five sessions thus far. You and your therapist are still effectively strangers. You also have yet to fully detail the abuse that you have endured. Recounting problems and abuse is painful but necessary in the healing process. This is especially true in the beginning of therapy because early sessions often include recounting the most painful aspects of a person’s life.

You said that you felt “a little better” after each session. That good feeling is short-lived but the fact that you show improvement after each session is a good sign. If you continue with therapy, the likely outcome is that you will come to feel much better, and not just for short periods of time.

You asked whether it is normal to find it difficult to fully implement the advice of your therapist (i.e. “he’s telling me how to change my thoughts but I swear my brain refuses to listen to him.”). Yes, that is completely normal. If change were easy, then it would only take a few sessions to cure most psychological problems but that’s not the case. It is impossible to overcome years of severe abuse in only a month. It takes time but it’s worth it. It will be a cure, not just a temporary fix.

To deal with the flashbacks and nightmares, you may want to consider seeing a psychiatrist in addition to your therapist. A psychiatrist would evaluate whether or not you are a good candidate for medication. A reduction in flashbacks and nightmares would ultimately serve to improve the therapeutic process.

No, you are not wasting your therapist’s time nor are you wasting your time. In my estimation, you’ve already made progress. To quit therapy now would be a mistake. I would strongly recommend that you continue with therapy and try to be as open and as honest as possible. The more you reveal to your therapist the better able he will be to assist you.

In your next session, I would encourage you to discuss these concerns with your therapist. It will allow your therapist to explain what you can expect with regard to therapy. Please take care.

Dr. Kristina Randle

Should I Quit Therapy?

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Kristina Randle, Ph.D., LCSW

Kristina Randle, Ph.D., LCSW is a licensed psychotherapist and Assistant Professor of Social Work and Forensics with extensive experience in the field of mental health. She works in private practice with adults, adolescents and families. Kristina has worked in a large array of settings including community mental health, college counseling and university research centers.

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Randle, K. (2018). Should I Quit Therapy?. Psych Central. Retrieved on December 1, 2020, from
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