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Multiple Issues – What’s Wrong with Me?

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I have been having issues with trust, jealousy, suspicion, depression and anxiety for as long as I can remember. I am a 28 year old female. I have seen many counselors but have yet to be diagnosed with anything. I was sexually abused by family members growing up, which has led me to be very preoccupied with sexuality. I feel euphoric happiness when I am wanted sexually, or when I am engaged in sex. I always need reassurance that I am attractive. I enjoy attention from others…However, when my husband even looks in the direction of another woman I become extremely angry. Like a switch was flipped and my entire demeanor changes. I feel like I cannot control this reaction anymore. I am on my second marriage (my first husband lied, cheated, raped me and verbally abused me). I am extremely insecure. I always suspect my current husband is keeping something from me. I accuse him all the time and he has no patience for it anymore. I feel unable to trust, unable to feel happiness, unable to function normally. I often have thoughts of suicide. I attempted suicide once and was in the hospital for 2 days. At night I cannot sleep alone as I am terrified and have panic attacks. I had to take zopiclone for 2 years every night in order to sleep. I do not know what to do, or where to turn. I do not have a support system and I know that my actions and thoughts are not normal. Please help….

Multiple Issues – What’s Wrong with Me?

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I am sorry that your therapy has not been more helpful. Rather than guess at the factors that are causing the symptoms you may want to get some more information. Whenever I have clients who are not making progress—or for whom there is no clear diagnosis–I encourage them to do some testing so we can get another opinion. I believe this may be helpful for you and encourage you to go for some testing by a clinical psychologist. Someone who can administer a battery of tests will give you some insight and help you with your therapy. A good evaluation like this will give you some understanding of the dynamics that you bring into relationships, and can provide a roadmap for your therapeutic growth.

Wishing you patience and peace,
Dr. Dan
Proof Positive Blog @ PsychCentral

Multiple Issues – What’s Wrong with Me?

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Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP

Dan Tomasulo Ph.D., TEP, MFA, MAPP teaches Positive Psychology in the graduate program of Counseling and Clinical Psychology at Columbia University, Teachers College and works with Martin Seligman, the Father of Positive Psychology in the Masters of Applied Positive Psychology (MAPP) program at the University of Pennsylvania. He is Director of the New York Certification in Positive Psychology for the Open Center in New York City and on faculty at New Jersey City University. Sharecare has honored him as one of the top 10 online influencers on the topic of depression. For more information go to: He also writes for Psych Central's Ask the Therapist column and the Proof Positive blog.

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Tomasulo, D. (2018). Multiple Issues – What’s Wrong with Me?. Psych Central. Retrieved on November 28, 2020, from
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