Is it possible to have long term depression, even major depression but have nobody notice? I do all the things I am supposed to do: cook meals, get the kids to their activities, do the requisite volunteer work, and keep track of everyone. Yet I have felt like I am dying inside for years. I think about suicide constantly. I don’t know if I could do it. I don’t know if it would be worse for me to continue as my children’s Mom, or for them to have had a Mom who committed suicide. But the thoughts are always there, and I know what I would do. I just feel like since I “cope,” as in I always have been “old reliable,” that neither my family nor my therapist has any idea that I am dying inside. Will I just slip away and no one notice, because I keep doing what I am supposed to do?

A: I feel really sad reading that. It sounds like you’ve developed a skill at really hiding what’s going on inside and how bad you’re feeling. It is possible to have major depression and hide it from people. Watch the video for the rest of this answer.

Take good care of yourself,

Julie Hanks, LCSW